Someone I know very well is giving serious thought to quitting her job, due to her consistently, inexplicably hostile supervisor.
The way I hear it, this guy likes to react to her innocently-meant words as though they were a threat or a challenge. And then comes on all aggrieved when my friend who he's going off on tries to explain that no offense was intended.
Example: the other day, this fellow mentioned to her in a telephone conversation that she'd have to come in five or six hours early, a few days hence. Well, she's stuck with a union contract, and it requires a certain minimum lead time for mandatory schedule changes and his "have to" was uttered significantly after that. So she pointed out the shift change would have to be voluntary, with the usual agreement that it didn't set precedent, and said she'd come in. Alas, her boss went ballistic, exclaiming, "Your co-workers are enthusiastic to see a project through to completion." And no matter how she tried to explain, that was that, the conversation was over.
...And at the office, she's told he asked for volunteers. H'mmm, how about that.
The kicker is, her boss has known about the early-start day for weeks. He had not imparted that information to his underlings.
Later that day, when my poor fool of a friend tried to explain, again, about the issue with short-notice mandatory sked changes being a contractual problem, she was told to shut up, spend more time listening and less time speaking to her supervisor in a condescending manner.
Her attempts to resolve the matter with higher-ups were met with platitudes and amusement. She tells me this has been going on for years. It's not quite open harassment, just goading. She's got a childhood history of being bullied and reacts badly to this kind of thing, becoming depressed and avoidant, gets stomach problems, and so on.
She'd really like to quit. It's clear her employer doesn't want to do anything about the goading supervisor and she's concerned about the long-term health impact (her digestive issues have been getting worse and worse). But she's got family in town and house payments to make, and the job does pay pretty good money, more than she could make elsewhere; she can't afford to give up that job.
I think she's just stuck. It's unfortunate, but we can't all afford to "go Galt," no matter how bad things are.
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